Initially the term "Lifestyle" was introduced by Austrian psychologists, Alfred Adler and Ferdinand the Bull.

In 1929, the notion of lifestyle had a broad meaning, as it is understood today, which has actually been used since the 1961s.

In the beginning, actually lifestyle is only part of secondary human needs that can change according to the times, or someone's desire to change their lifestyle.

A person's lifestyle can also be seen from the way he dresses, his habits, and so on.

Lifestyle also actually has a relative value, depending on the judgment of other people who judge it.

Lifestyle can also be used as a good example, but it can also be used as a bad thing.

Examples of a good lifestyle, among others; eat and rest regularly, consume 4 healthy 5 perfect foods, and so on.

While examples of bad lifestyle, among others; speaking impolitely, dressing immodestly, eating carelessly, and so on.

Lifestyle is increasingly having a broader meaning, so lifestyle can be predicted that in the future it will become a more complex pattern of human life.

Take, for example, the behavior of a person, rarely in their lifestyle is not parallel. For example someone who uses a luxurious lifestyle, it will be impossible for him to dress simply, and buy cheap things.

If we associate lifestyle with mindset, then it can be said that mindset is the working system, while lifestyle can be said as a tool to implement it.

Why did we take the theme "7 Lifestyles", because in our opinion, there are 7 main human variables, which reflect their mindset, which can be implemented through these "7 Lifestyle variables".

A person's lifestyle is inseparable from the existence of the person himself, whether he feels comfortable being himself, who feels he already exists with what he has now.

In criticizing lifestyle, a person's ownership is not only in the objects or property that he has, but also includes skills, education, circle of friends, and so on, which are related to things that can be compared with other people's ownership.

Ownership of a lifestyle, including good looks, and a proportional body shape, if he is a man. The same goes for women, they always associate it with their beauty and their beautiful bodies.

Thus it is clear, lifestyle is an essential thing to talk about at the present time.

The question is, mindset first or lifestyle first, if we want to form a positive mindset for our children. This question is actually almost the same as the question, the egg first or the chicken first.

Let's make it easier, if we teach mindset first, rather than lifestyle first, then we will, or have to use a lot of parables that are quite abstract, which will make it difficult for our children to imagine, what is it for, what are the results, and what are the benefits mindset for himself.

However, if we start by introducing lifestyle first, it will be easier for children to understand, because the examples are real.

Therefore, the title of this website begins by introducing lifestyle first, rather than Mindset. This can be seen from our website url, which emphasizes lifestyle more.

You can show examples of people who are royal in their lifestyle, and at the same time answer why that person should adopt a royal lifestyle.

People who use the royal lifestyle, usually people who suffer from an existential crisis. They hope, with their generosity, they will always be respected, besides that, it will make them feel that they always exist in their circle of friends.

So it is clear that the royal lifestyle indicates that the person is not confident, or suffers from an existential crisis. (Please distinguish between Royal and Generous).

An economical lifestyle in buying fashion items, for example, which can be seen when you have to make a choice, which item to buy.

With the same quality, branded ones are certainly much more expensive than non-branded ones.

If you buy non-branded ones, because you think the quality is the same, or at least close, but at a friendly price, then you are included in the criteria for using a positive lifestyle.

It must also be distinguished, if you really like branded goods, and you happen to be very capable of buying them, and you buy them not because you join in, or are influenced by other people, then that is your real lifestyle.

Back to our lifestyle habits in buying, make it a habit to prioritize the function of the item, not the prioritized model. Because we buy the function, and the quality, not the model.

The frugal lifestyle in enjoying culinary is different again, when you have to decide which restaurant, or restaurant, you want to visit.

While dirty restaurants are cheap, and hygienist ones are expensive, this is where with the mindset education system in the subject "Manners", we are taught intelligence, not memorization. (An article about a smart and ethical lifestyle, is on the Latest Wata WA website)

Lifestyle dismantles a person's mindset, for example that person uses memorization as a benchmark, then what is stated in the memorized description is used as a benchmark for making a decision, so that the description "efficient equals cheaper" will be made an absolute decision for him, without being followed by strict logic. others, which even if thought intelligently, can actually negate the statement of its explicit description.

It's true, being economical is cheaper, but with a lifestyle that places a positive mindset, one who always wants to think twice, will always ask the cause and effect, "What are the possible consequences afterwards?"

With a smart lifestyle, you will consume food and choose a hygienic restaurant.

So the expensive choice for this case, does not reflect a hedonistic lifestyle, but rather anticipation, as an application of a smart lifestyle.

If you eat at a restaurant that is cheap but dirty, it will reflect on your wrong lifestyle, because there will be a possibility for you, when you finish eating, you will actually get diarrhea.

So the question is, do you use a smart lifestyle, and are you okay, or do you get diarrhea, if you choose a cheap restaurant, which then you have to be hospitalized, then if you count the pros and cons.

With a smart lifestyle, you can calculate your losses using a lifestyle that only memorizes. By being treated in the hospital, the costs are much more expensive, when compared to the difference in price between cheap restaurant food and expensive restaurant food prices.

Before discussing an ethical lifestyle. Sometimes we are confused, do we have to have a good attitude too.

Or we also often find the title "Be ethical and have good ethics", as well as in articles discussing lifestyle.

Meanwhile, the meaning of the word ethics are things that describe how our attitudes and behavior in our environment are identical to our role as social human beings. This term is also known as Attitude.

For this lifestyle discussion, we prefer to use the term ethics, which we think is more social.

Above, we have given examples of bad lifestyles, or unethical lifestyles, such as speaking impolitely, dressing immodestly, using harsh vocabulary, arrogant gestures, and so on.

What we need to know, in looking at a person's lifestyle, the first is precisely the person's ethics, because it is from ethics, we will know the origin of that person.

It could be, he uses his daily lifestyle like a noble. With a lifestyle that is neat and clean, but when we talk, you can see its origins, and its true lifestyle, from the way it holds a glass, from the way it talks, and so on.

The ancestors of the Archipelago have taught lifestyle, and passed down noble values which are very complete, with the values of a classy lifestyle itself.

So it should be, if we stay true to the values inherited from our Ancestors, then our lifestyle must be classy.

For the sake of the comfort of your life, you are still allowed, and even have to determine which lifestyle you will apply in your daily life.

In our opinion, adopt a smart lifestyle, so that you are detached, or not caught in an existential crisis, which will give you more to lose. (continued article in Latest WA News)

Regards,

Sapto Satrio Mulyo

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Pada awalnya istilah "Gayahidup" diperkenalkan oleh psikolog Austria, Alfred Adler dan Ferdinand the Bull.

Pada tahun 1929, pengertian gayahidup memiliki makna yang luas, sebagaimana dipahami pada hari ini, yang sebenarnya sudah mulai digunakan sejak tahun 1961an.

Gayahidup semakin lama semakin punya makna yang lebih luas, sehingga gayahidup dapat diprediksi kedepannya akan jadi pola hidup manusia yang lebih kompleks.

Ambil saja contoh, prilaku seseorang, jarang sekali yang di dalam gayahidup mereka tidak paralel. Misal seseorang yang menggunakan gayahidup mewah, maka akan tidak mungkin ia berpakaian sederhana, dan membeli barang-barang murahan.

Jika gayahidup kita kaitkan dengan pola pikir, maka dapat dikatakan, bahwa pola pikir adalah sistem kerjanya, sementara gayahidup dapat dikatakan sebagai alat untuk mengimplementasikannya.

Mengapa kami mengambil tema "7 Gayahidup", karena menurut kami, ada 7 veriabel utama manusia, yang mencerminkan pola pikirnya, yang dapat diimplementasikan melalui "7 variabel Gayahidup" tersebut.

Gayahidup seseorang tidak terlepas dari eksistensi orang itu sendiri, apakah ia sudah merasa nyaman untuk menjadi dirinya sendiri, yang merasa dirinya sudah eksis dengan apa yang ia miliki saat ini.

Dalam mengkritisi gayahidup, kepemilikan seseorang bukan saja pada benda-benda atau harta yang ia miliki, tapi juga termasuk skill, edukasi, lingkaran persekawanannya, dan lain sebagainya, yang menyangkut pada hal-hal yang dapat diperbandingkan dengan kepemilikan orang lain.

Kepemilikan dalam gayahidup, termasuk pula dengan ketampanan, dan bentuk tubuh yang proposional, jika ia seorang pria. Begitu pula yang terjadi pada wanita, mereka pun selalu mengkait-kaitkan dengan kecantikannya dan dengan tubuhnya yang indah.

Dengan demikian jelas, gayahidup adalah hal yang esensial untuk dibicarakan pada masa sekarang.

Pertanyaannya, pola pikir dulu atau gayahidup dulu, jika kita ingin membentuk pola pikir positif anak-anak kita.  Pertanyaan ini sebenarnya hampir sama dengan pertanyaan, telor dulu atau ayam dulu.

Ayo kita permudah, jika kita mengajar pola pikir terlebih dahulu, daripada gayahidup dulu, maka kita akan, atau harus banyak menggunakan perumpamaan yang cukup abstrak, yang akan membuat anak-anak kita sulit untuk membayangkan, untuk apa, hasilnya seperti apa, dan apa manfaatnya pola pikir bagi dirinya kelak.

Namun jika kita memulainya dari memperkenalkan gayahidup terlebih dahulu, maka anak-anak akan lebih mudah untuk mengerti, karena contohnya nyata. 

Oleh karena itu, judul website ini dimulai dengan memperkenalkan gayahidup terlebih dahulu, ketimbang Pola Pikir. Hal ini terlihat dari url website kami, yang lebih menonjolkan gayahidup.

Anda bisa menunjukan contoh orang yang royal dalam gayahidup mereka, dan sekaligus menjawab mengapa orang itu harus menggunakan gayahidup royal.

Orang yang menggunakan gayahidup royal itu, biasanya orang yang menderita krisis eksistensi. Mereka berharap, dengan keroyalannya, mereka akan selalu dihormati, selain itu juga, membuat mereka merasa selalu eksis di dalam lingkaran pergaulannya.

Jadi jelas gayahidup royal itu, menandakan orang tersebut tidak percaya diri, atau menderita krisis eksistensi. (Harap dibedakan, antara Royal dengan Dermawan).

Gayahidup irit dalam membeli barang fashion misalnya, dimana dapat dilihat saat Anda harus menentukan pilihan, barang mana yang akan Anda beli.

Dengan kwalitas yang sama, yang branded tentu jauh lebih mahal, dari yang non branded.

Jika Anda membeli yang non branded, karena menurut Anda kwalitasnya pun sama, atau paling tidak mendekati, tetapi dengan harga yang bersahabat, maka Anda termasuk kriteria menggunakan gayahidup positif.

Harus pula dibedakan, jika Anda memang suka sekali dengan barang yang branded tersebut, dan kebetulan Anda memang sangat mampu untuk membelinya, juga Anda membelinya bukan karena ikut-ikutan, atau pengaruh orang lain, maka itulah gayahidup Anda yang sesungguhnya.

Kembali kepada kebiasaan gayahidup kita dalam membeli, biasakanlah untuk memprioritaskan fungsi barang tersebut, bukan modelnya yang diprioritaskan. Karena kita membeli fungsi, dan kwalitasnya, bukan modelnya.

Gayahidup irit dalam menikmati kuliner beda lagi, saat Anda harus menentukan rumah makan, atau resto yang mana, yang ingin Anda kunjungi. 

Sementara resto yang jorok harganya murah, dan yang hygienist harganya mahal, disinilah dengan sistem pendidikan pola pikir dalam mata pelajaran "Budi Pekerti", kita diajarkan Kecerdasan, bukan Hafalan. (Artikel mengenai gayahidup yang cerdas dan ber-Budi Pekerti, ada di website Warta WA Terkini)

Gayahidup membongkar pola pikir seseorang, semisal orang tersebut menggunakan hafalan sebagai patokannya, maka yang tertera dalam deskripsi yang dihafalkanlah yang dijadikan patokan untuk mengambil sebuah keputusan, sehingga deskripsi "irit sama dengan lebih murah" akan dijadikan ketetapan yang absolut bagi dirinya, tanpa diikuti logika yang lain, yang bahkan jika dipikir secara cerdas, justru dapat menegasi pernyataan deskripsi tersuratnya.

Memang benar, irit itu lebih murah, tetapi dengan gayahidup yang menempatkan pola pikir positif, yang selalu ingin berfikir 2 kali, maka akan selalu menanyakan sebab akibatnya, "Bagaimana Kemungkinan Akibat Sesudahnya"

Dengan gayahidup yang cerdas, maka Anda akan mengkonsumsi makanan, dan memilih resto yang hygienist.

Jadi pilihan mahal untuk kasus ini, bukanlah mencerminkan gayahidup yang hedon, akan tetapi lebih pada antisipasi, sebagai penerapan gayahidup yang cerdas. 

Jika Anda makan di resto yang murah tapi jorok, maka akan tercermin gayahidup Anda yang salah, karena akan ada kemungkinan bagi diri Anda, saat setelah selesai makan, Anda justru terkena diare.

Jadi pertanyaannya, apakah Anda menggunakan gayahidup yang cerdas, dan apakah Anda baik-baik saja, atau Anda terjangkit diare, jika Anda memilih resto yang murah, yang kemudian justru harus dirawat di rumah sakit, maka jika dihitung untung ruginya.

Dengan gayahidup yang cerdas, maka dapat dihitung kerugian Anda yang menggunakan gayahidup yang hanya menghafal.nDengan dirawatnya Anda di rumah sakit, biayanya sangatlah jauh lebih mahal biayanya, jika dibanding dengan selisih harga antara makanan resto yang murah, dengan harga makanan resto yang mahal.

Sebelum membahas gayahidup yang ber-etika. Kadang kita bingung, apakah harus juga ber-attitude yang baik pula.

Atau kita juga kerap menemukan judul "Ber-etika dan ber-Ettitude yang baik", begitu pula dalam artikel pembahasan gayahidup.

Sementara, arti dari kata Etika adalah hal-hal yang menggambarkan bagaimana sikap dan prilaku kita di lingkungan kita, yang identik dengan peran kita sebagai manusia sosial. Istilah ini juga disebut dengan Attitude.

Untuk bahasan gayahidup ini, kami lebih memilih menggunakan istilah etika, yang menurut kami lebih memasyarakat.

Di atas tadi, kami sudah memberikan contoh gayahidup yang buruk, atau gayahidup yang tidak ber-etika, seperti  bergaya bicara tidak santun, berpakaian tidak sopan, menggunakan kosa kata yang kasar, gestur yang sombong, dan lain sebagainya.

Yang perlu kita ketahui, dalam melihat gayahidup seseorang itu, yang pertama justru dari etika orang tersebut, karena dari etikalah, kita akan tahu asal usul orang tersebut.

Bisa saja, ia menggunakan gayahidup kesehariannya seperti seorang ningrat. Dengan gayahidup berpakaian necis, dan bersih, tetapi saat kita berbincang, terlihatlah asal-usulnya, dan gayahidup sebenarnya, dari cara ia memegang gelas, dari cara ia berbicara, dan lain sebagainya.

Leluhur Nusantara sudah mengajari gayahidup, dan mewariskan nilai-nilai luhur yang sangat lengkap, dengan nilai-nilai gayahidup yang berkelas itu sendiri.

Jadi seharusnya, jika kita tetap saja pada jalur nilai-nilai warisan Leluhur kita, maka gayahidup kita pasti berkelas.

Demi kenyamanan hidup Anda, Anda tetap boleh, dan bahkan harus menetapkan gayahidup yang mana, yang akan Anda terapkan dalam kehidupan Anda sehari-hari.

Menurut kami, gunakanlah gayahidup yang cerdas, agar Anda terlepas, atau tidak terperangkap dalam krisis eksistensi, yang akan lebih banyak memberi Anda kerugian. (artikel lanjutan ada di Warta WA Terkini)

Salam,

Sapto Satrio Mulyo

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As a human who uses a thinker mindset, he will always think twice, before going further, or to make a wise decision.

It is different with humans who use a rote mindset, because they are not intelligent, so to make a decision, based only on the data in their brain database, they do not use the tools that have been given by God Almighty, such as kajiwo (empathy). for example.

So if the problem at hand is not in the database of their brain, then simply, they say that it doesn't make sense to them, even though in fact they don't use their mind. This kind of memorizing mindset usually consciously or not suffers from double standards.

It is different with people who use a thinker mindset, they will use all the equipment that has been equipped by God Almighty, such as; senses, kajiwo (empathy), and so forth. So they tend to apply a single standard.

Therefore, the human tendency to use a rote mindset has a double standard character, and a certain low EQ, so it is easy to get cranky or angry, or what children now know as the term "human short fuse".

There have been many incidents, one of which was when a religious figure argued with a female artist. When the religious figure was addressed, he immediately burst into tears like chicken vegetables. Obviously yes, mindset is everything.

Because most of us, only know that angry people, only those who behave temperamentally, it doesn't feel that the majority of users of the rote mindset, we can be sure have a low EQ, even though they don't look temperamental.

Angry people who use a temperamental rote mindset, they are among those who have no calculation against the resistance of the people around them, or maybe have enough guts.

But in reality, short fuse people who use the rote mindset, act temperamentally, only when they are in large numbers. Individually, they are like vegetable chickens.

Meanwhile, people who use the mindset of memorizing, but are not seen as someone who is angry, and also not seen as a temperamental person, so they have little courage, or take into account the resistance of the people around them. Or also included in the classification of vegetable chicken.

After the implementation of the curriculum that replaced the mindset subject "Budipekerti" into two subjects, namely; Citizenship and Religion, with rote teaching patterns.

The episode of student brawl between schools begins, armed with a memorizer mindset, then your school vs my school. Such is the short-sighted view of the educational results of a memorizer mindset.

If we look at the perspective of thinkers. Your school has the same problem as mine. Humans have a thinker mindset, surely say "you and I are both educated people, let's solve it wisely"

The result of replacing the curriculum..., which uses a memorizing mindset, is now being shown to us, whether intentionally or not, studying religion does not promise people to be good, compared to when the ethical mindset subjects were still being implemented.

It can be seen that one of the religious streams, with the result of a memorizer mindset education, they do not recognize the existence of other religions, they even consider one religion to be another religion than theirs. Because of the results of the memorizer's mindset, they always think they are the most correct.

Now that the difference is clear, between the thinking mindset of the thinker and the mindset of memorizing, it is clear that "Smart is not by memorizing", but "Smart can be by memorizing"

This is not gossip, but the fact that when we learn ethical mindset, we immediately implement it, and it is clear that the impact is direct for those who apply it.

Unlike studying religion, the majority of which are only memorized, while those who implement them, cannot immediately feel the impact.

With this learning mindset that emphasizes memorization, it makes us rigid in accepting other values than what is memorized.

What is equally important, while we are trying to interpret what is the meaning, use, and application of mindset to human behavior, so that it is clearer, we can divide the functions of mindset and lifestyle functions.

An easy analogy is, if the mindset is the system, then the lifestyle is the application.

Your lifestyle is a reflection of your own mindset. With a smart and healthy mindset, your lifestyle will look smart and healthy.

In essence, your behavior, your appearance, your lifestyle, and your success, all of that, really depends on your own mindset.

Before it's too late, I think you have to choose to use a thinking mindset, or a memorizing mindset.

Only for those who want to be smart, may choose to use a thinker mindset.

Thinking mindset, besides making us smart, our charm will shine in the eyes of the sane opposite sex.

A thinker mindset makes us more confident, facing various challenges.

The mindset of thinkers, makes our EQ higher, so we become patient people.

The mindset of thinkers, makes us never stop thinking about positive things.

People who use a thinker mindset tend to have a lot of humor, so they are liked by their friends.

Last but not least, a thinker mindset also makes us healthier, because we use our brains more often to think positively.

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Life is a choice, choose your way of life with a clean heart.

Once you choose with determination, stick with it.

So that you are not affected by a temporary trend, which makes you want to change direction, to an ongoing trend. And when you start that new direction, it turns out that the path, which previously seemed loose, suddenly becomes solid.

And when you realize that you want to return to your first choice, it seems that it seems to be congested, that's where you seem to be in a hurry. Meanwhile, if you are consistent with your resolve, then you can run it quickly.

The biggest distraction for people is seeing a new gap that seems easier, compared to what they are currently working on, even though they don't know for sure whether they are qualified for this new gap.

This is the meaning of "Alon-alon Asal Kelakon", a very high Javanese philosophy. The latter has been imitated by many developed nations, but they do not admit it. They say EQ.

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